Things I have Learned

No decision is final.  Life is not so black and white that anything cannot be overcome with hard work, time, patience, and forgiveness.  

We control our own destiny, and in order to do that must let others control their own destiny.  

Everyone has the right to fail and succeed on their own accord.  It is through this that we determine who we are.

If you want something to work you have to be willing to put forth the effort to make it work.  Nothing is easy, and that which is easy is seldom what you want.

If you do everything that someone asks, eventually they will resent the fact that you never let them do for themselves.

Relationships require work from both sides.  There is almost never one responsible party in either the success or failure of a relationship.

Love can be eternal but it must adapt to protect itself.

Life is not static.

To be good in a relationship you must find the right balance of selflessness, and selfishness.  Provide the needs for the other person while protecting who you are.

If you lose yourself in a relationship, then YOU are no longer in the relationship.

If something is worth having, then it is worth fighting for.

Never make a last attempt, because a LAST attempt means you are giving up.

Growth in a relationship must be enjoyed and embraced by the individuals, and the relationship as a whole. 

You should be able to be yourself in your relationship first and foremost. Even if the rest of the world does not know who you really are.

We are all allowed to have opinions and should feel safe and comfortable enough with our significant others to express them freely.

If you are not able to move on alone, then you are not able to move on with the one that you love. As individuals you must identify yourselves in order to give a face to your relationship.

When two people come together in a relationship, they should be seen as one, and still remain separate.